I was getting close to age 50 and things were looking pretty bleak in the dating and “finding the love of my life” department. I was ready to give up.
I had been divorced many years and had just come off a disastrous on-line dating scenario. Dating a guy long-distance for 2 years and then finding out he was not divorced had just about done me in.
Plus, I had dated a couple of guys before that who were great guys, but for various reasons, I knew they were not “the One” God intended for me as a husband.
Have you had similar experiences with dating or just can’t seem to get anything going with anyone you have met online? Are you ready to give up finding the man of your dreams? Are you thinking “there are no good men out there, especially for someone my age?”
I have good news! It is possible to find someone to spend your life with after age 50. I am living proof that it is possible.
My husband and I have been happily married now 15 years.
Here are some tips to help YOU get ready for love:
- Take the best care of yourself physically. Concentrate on eating healthy foods, minimizing processed foods. If you have health challenges, find out what you can do to correct them. I had a number of health challenges, including chronic fatigue and food sensitivities. I took care to get the amount of rest and sleep I needed. I corrected the foods I was eating. I needed to change the amount of sugar I was eating, because of blood sugar problems. Move your body in whatever way works for you. When you take care of your body, you are preparing yourself for a healthy future to share with someone. How do you take care of yourself physically?
- Work on your thoughts. It’s amazing how your thoughts can affect the feelings you have, the actions you take and the results you get. If you are having thoughts like, “there are no good men out there for someone my age (substitute my size, in my condition, my history with men),” you will generate feelings like discouraged. When you feel discouraged, what kind of action do you take? Do you take any action at all? Then what result do you get? You don’t attract anyone! The good news is you can change your brain with new thoughts.
- Spend time on your spiritual life. Connect with God in whatever ways you communicate and listen to Him. Listen to praise music, read scripture, journal to Him, spend time with people who have similar values. Here is what I think was the key to meeting my husband. I had been working on the “meeting someone” under my own power, not His. I had shared with friends that I wanted to meet someone. I was trying online dating. I had had some very unsatisfactory results. What I decided was that I would turn this process over to God. Completely. I said to Him, “I have obviously done an very poor job in trying to find someone. So I am surrendering this whole process to you. You know what’s best for me.”
A short time later I met my husband through someone I knew from volunteering. Three years later we were married. He wasn’t the “package” I had expected. He was 8 1/2 years younger than me and he had a 7-year -old son. My daughter was grown. God knew what was best for me. Trust and surrender were ultimately what I believe were the keys to getting ready to meet the man of my dreams.
If you are ready to get ready for love and would like some help, contact me here and schedule a strategy call, so we can talk about your challenges in this area. If you are single and over 50, don’t give up! The best is yet to come.
Much love,
Jane
Jane Springer is a certified Life, Wellness and Style Coach who assists women in taking care of themselves, in body, mind and spirit. She coaches women who want to lose weight, avoid diabetes, and feel great. She also helps them thrive after divorce. She also helps them to clear their closets of old clothes and outdated attitudes, so they can shine and feel confident.